Narcissistic parenting is a type of parenting in which the parents are more interested in their own needs than in the needs of their child. These parents tend to be very demanding and often put their desires above those of their children. They may also be very critical and make it difficult for their children to feel good about themselves.
Types of Narcissistic parenting
There are three types of Narcissistic parenting: indulgent, uninvolved, and authoritarian.
Indulgent Narcissistic parents
Indulgent Narcissistic parents are over-involved in their children’s lives and give them everything they want. These parents are often seen as pushovers and tend to spoil their children. They typically have low expectations for their children and don’t require them to do anything other than what makes them happy.
Uninvolved Narcissistic parents
Uninvolved Narcissistic parents are distant and uninterested in their children. They provide the necessities but offer little emotional support or guidance. These parents typically have high expectations for their children and expect them to excel in everything they do.
Authoritarian Narcissistic parents
Authoritarian Narcissistic parents are extremely strict and controlling. They expect their children to obey their every rule without question. These parents don’t show much love or affection towards their children but rather act in ways that would be expected of a military general.
Disadvantages of Narcissistic parenting
Narcissistic parenting is when one or both parents are narcissists. The child may be brought up in a very narcissistic way, with a huge emphasis on success and self-esteem, but when the child falls short of their parent’s expectations they can be harshly judged. So how can you tell if your child is growing up in a narcissistic household?
Narcissistic children may have problems with empathy and guilt. They may be very demanding, expecting others to meet their needs, and they may have difficulty regulating their emotions. They may also have a grandiose view of themselves and often exaggerate their achievements. Narcissistic parents are often overbearing and critical, expecting their children to follow their rules or else.
Narcissistic parents may raise conflictual children, who are disagreeable and non-compliant. Over time these children can become very angry with their narcissistic parents, complaining of unjust treatment at their hands. This type of emotional climate is likely to affect the child’s emotional development. Narcissistic parenting can have a lasting impact on the child’s personality.
As the child of a narcissist matures, they may have difficulty finding a fulfilling relationship that meets their needs for love and warmth. They may find it hard to trust people and feel insecure in relationships. Narcissistic parenting can often leave children with low self-esteem and a feeling of worthlessness.
So if you suspect that your child is growing up in a narcissistic household, what can you do? The most important thing is to get professional help. There are therapies available that can help the child to understand their parents’ behavior and to develop better coping mechanisms.